Sure, you go to the gym—but when was the last time you worked out your will power? Much like the muscles in your body, will power can be strengthened with intention and practice. When it’s weak, we tend to gravitate toward comfort, pleasure, or self-pride. And while there’s nothing inherently wrong with these in moderation, most people don’t realize that the true joy of these things is amplified when will power is strong.

The universe has a way of sending reminders. The other day, my 3-year-old daughter echoed back to me in her “pretending to be daddy” voice:
“Well, sometimes we have to do things we don’t want to do.”

As humbling (and slightly cringeworthy) as it can be to hear your words repeated by your child, she was right. Sometimes we have to do things we don’t “want” to do.

But here’s the question worth asking: What is it that you really want?

Do you want ease, escape, and comfort? Or do you want growth, health, and fulfillment? Perhaps you want both. The secret is this: we’re all winning at the game we’re playing. Whatever you’re experiencing now is the natural outcome of what you’ve truly wanted—whether you see yourself as a victim of circumstances or the creator of them makes all the difference.

In my younger years, when I spent weeks escaping into numbness, what I wanted was solitude and peace. Later, when I decided I wanted health and a long life, my actions shifted. That’s the power of will—it turns desire into reality.

One way to “train” your will power is to deliberately choose something aligned with your goals, even if it feels uncomfortable. Years ago, I wanted to meditate and exercise daily, but the only practical time was early morning. What I wanted was to sleep in. What I wanted more was health and mental clarity. So I forced myself out of bed. Imperfectly at first—but within minutes of being awake, gratitude replaced resistance. Over time, this discipline became natural, and my will power grew.

Will power is like compounding interest. The more you practice it, the stronger it becomes. Each small act against your comfort zone expands your capacity. You learn that you can command your body, thoughts, and emotions, rather than letting them command you.

As Master Choa Kok Sui taught:
“The will is the commander. The body is the vehicle. The mind is the instrument. The soul is the master.”

When your will aligns with higher purpose, prana flows more powerfully. It energizes the body, sharpens the mind, and strengthens character. In this way, will power isn’t just about forcing yourself to do difficult things—it’s about directing energy consciously, so that life bends toward your true goals.

So ask yourself today:
What do I really want?
And what small act of will can move me closer to it?

Studies suggest the human mind produces somewhere between 60,000 and 80,000 thoughts every single day—and around 90% of those are negative, often directed at ourselves. Left unchecked, the mind runs wild with what-if scenarios, doubts, fears, and half-true stories. No wonder it’s been called the “monkey mind” or the “critter brain.”

But here’s the good news: you don’t have to let that monkey drive the car. There’s a simple technique—used by professional athletes and Olympians—that can help you take back the wheel.

It’s called Mental Rehearsal.

Mental rehearsal is the practice of envisioning things the way you want them to go, instead of leaving them to chance.

Picture this: Olympic alpine ski racer Lindsey Vonn is about to take her final run for the gold medal. Cameras pan in on her at the starting gate, eyes sharp, body still. What’s happening in her mind? Not fear. Not doubt. Not worry. She’s already skiing. In her head, she’s navigating every curve, bump, and shadow of the course—flawlessly. By the time the starter bell rings, she’s already won in her mind.

And while most of us aren’t Olympic athletes, the truth is: this tool works for everyone.

How much of what you do in a given day is driven by fear?

If your first instinct is to say, “None,” I invite you to reflect deeper. I used to say the same—only to later realize that nearly everything I did was rooted in fear. Fear is sneaky. It works on levels.

At the obvious level, fear is simple: “I’m afraid this will hurt me,” or, “That lion looks like it wants to eat me.” But on more subtle levels, fear hides in our routines and decisions—in the form of insecurity, desire, or even pride. In fact, fear often underlies anger, sadness, and frustration.

Think about it: fear of being alone, fear of dying, fear of not being enough, fear of being judged, fear of failing, fear of succeeding, fear of losing something—or someone. These fears are so common in today’s world that we almost stop noticing them. And with the news, social media, and advertising constantly pulling at our emotions, it feels like we’re swimming in fear energy all the time.

But there’s a better way.

This week, in a teachable moment from my 3-year-old (who’s learning about opposites), she asked me:
“Daddy, what’s the opposite of fear?”

Not bad for 7am while making silly eggs and pink cherry oatmeal.

My answer: acceptance and faith.

For me, that faith is in God, the Universe, my teachers, and spiritual guides—beings I trust are far more than stories or symbols. For you, it might look different. What matters is trusting, at a deep level, that you’re going to be okay no matter what happens.

From faith comes acceptance. When you believe life is happening for you, not to you, acceptance follows naturally. I (imperfectly) try to view every challenge and every celebration as a gift. That doesn’t mean skipping over pain or pretending loss doesn’t hurt—it does. But even in the hardest moments, I trust there’s a greater order and timing at play.

And here’s where Master Choa Kok Sui’s teachings give us practical wisdom:
“Fear contaminates the aura and weakens the flow of prana. Faith and acceptance strengthen it, allowing divine energy to enter more freely.”

In other words, fear drains us—not just emotionally, but energetically. When we cling to fear, we shrink our life force. But when we release fear through acceptance and trust, prana flows in, restoring vitality and peace.

So here’s a practice:
The next time you notice fear creeping in, pause. Name it. Then gently say to yourself, “Even if this happens, I will be okay.” Notice how that shifts the energy.

Because what we fear is rarely as real—or as permanent—as it seems.

And when you release fear, you don’t just find peace. You create space for prana, for healing, and for life itself to flow through you.